Overcoming a COVID Identity Crisis
Written by Sobur Dhieu
There is no doubt that this turbulent year has brought about many challenges in society. For the first time in most of our lifetimes, we’ve been locked indoors, some for over six months (and continuing!) due to the threat of this global pandemic.
And in an era where mental health is a hot topic, conversations will inevitably lead you to question your own mental state in these times. For me, this year has been testing academically and socially—as has been the case for many readers here. But the more time I spent in reflection, the more I recognised how I had picked up new habits which decreased my motivation and productivity while abandoning my old ways. Our identity is found in many things: family, faith, friendships. But I also believe that we are a reflection of our habits. This transitioning season has caused me to evaluate who I was becoming— I was not used to feeling almost always exhausted, becoming socially distant or even being relaxed about my education.
But after diving further in my faith and by speaking to friends, family and my mentor Alisa, I have found ways of managing what I’ll call this “COVID Identity Crisis” and will share 5 short tips with you.
1) Focus on who you want to BE, not on what you need to DO
This is one of the most important and life-changing words of advice I’ve received. Before focusing on the sometimes endless list of things you need to get done in a day— family responsibilities, school, work, etc., you should take a step back and ask yourself what kind of person you would like to be for the day. Do you want to be kind? Courageous? Generous? Productive? Adopting this perspective will allow you to focus on self-development, boosting motivation as you work toward your goals. It has also helped me prioritise certain tasks and as a result, reduce stress.
2) Don’t abandon social interaction
If you’re like me, you choose to deal with personal issues by shutting down for a bit. While space may be necessary, constantly resorting to this can not only make you feel more isolated in the long run but prevents you from accessing the help you may need. A positive affirmation from family, friends and even strangers can go a long way.
3) Sleep is not for the weak!
Quarantine has really messed with many of our sleep schedules. But getting plenty of rest is essential to boosting positive mental health. Turn off Netflix for a while, log off Instagram and set your phone/device to Do Not Disturb to relax the mind and body.
4) Reconnecting with God
Meditating on God’s Word both alone and alongside friends and family has reminded me that our situation, however frustrating and in some cases debilitating, is only temporary. My faith inspires me to actively change my perspective from grumbling to grateful as I acknowledge the privileged position I still find myself in. It also helps me to seek value in God, not from exterior factors like grades, which may disappoint.
5) A routine is essential
To fully break negative habits like laziness, oversleeping and procrastination, I encourage you to write a schedule and establish a routine that works for you. If you find that you’re unable to stick to it, you should find out why and make any necessary changes. The benefits of a routine can be summarised in this profound quote by Aristotle:
“We are what we repeatedly do; excellence then is not an act but a habit.”
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