Strengthening the connection to self
Written by Nully Akuien
1) Practicing self-compassion
Compassion is an extremely compelling emotion that motivates people to go out of their way to help others; physically, mentally and emotionally. Practising this allows you to put yourself first and acknowledge your own state of well being. Compassion is regarding sensitivity and an emotional perspective towards suffering. If you have any unkempt emotions this self-compassion will allow you to overcome them.
2) Recognizing Emotions
Being able to pinpoint and name an emotion that you’re feeling at one particular moment, presents itself as being quite challenging. It can be very demanding to try and determine what emotions you’re feeling especially when upset or angry. Such emotions influence misunderstandings and can result in extreme and unnecessary actions. Practising being able to name the emotion that is beginning to overwhelm you will determine a much better outcome.
3) Emotional Acceptance
A key aspect of being able to connect to yourself is being aware and accepting your thoughts and emotions. Thoughts hold power to be able to manifest into reality and the emotions that come attached, guide the direction of your thoughts. If you maintain a level of negative thoughts this will ensure that you will be presented with negative and difficult situations. If you can change the direction of your thoughts to be more positive it will influence your emotions and change the perspective of how situations are presented to you. Acceptance can be a very difficult skill to master, it takes people many years to accept specific situations and emotions that they have felt. This is because many people try to change how others made them feel. This is an impossible task, as you can’t change others and how they present themselves, but you can change how you perceive information and accept your own emotions.
4) Understanding others
Friends and family play a huge part in our lives. They influence our thoughts and emotions towards; hobbies, activities, lifestyle and other individuals. Establishing what emotions we feel when involved in particular activities or surrounded by certain people will allow us to determine the influence that they present whether positive or negative. Acknowledging these emotions may result in having to distance oneself from particular friends or family, but this will ultimately result in healthier emotional and mental wellbeing. Being able to confide in and consult yourself will most definitely strengthen the connection to yourself.
5) Engaging in progressive solo activities
Another effective way to strengthen your connection to yourself is through solitude. Engaging in calming and exciting activities will allow you to be able to govern what activities regulate your highest and lowest frequency emotions. Engaging in activities such as yoga, jogging, dancing etc. involve physical activity. Physical activity will influence an external and internal outcome. Either altering your body (looking slimmer, gaining muscle etc.) and will also influence how you feel internally, releasing dopamine during exercise making you feel happier and more relaxed after. Other activities that you can engage in individually are more calming such as; reading, listening to music and meditation. These activities can be done anywhere and will allow you to become more comfortable when left with your own thoughts and emotions to process.
The points discussed above are not the only things that can strengthen your connections to yourself but are a guide to help you determine what best suits you. Remember to only expel what you would want to be repelled back. Peace and love.
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